Wholesome · by Noura Alotaibi · 2026-09-04

A gentle rant about kindness and expectations after 9 tries

> Tiny progress is still progress.

That line sounds cheesy, but it got me through the part where kindness stopped feeling new.

I started this because my weekend felt a little stuck, and family seemed like a manageable place to experiment. The funny part is that the smallest change was the one I kept.

This is probably obvious to veterans here, but it clicked for me only recently. family got easier when I stopped treating every attempt like a final exam.

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Brave Baker · 7 likes

This made me smile more than expected. Honestly, the simplest version wins for me. This is kinder advice than most of the internet manages.

Hugo Sánchez · 1 likes

This is the kind of disagreement I like.

Chloe Davis · 6 likes

The conclusion is too broad, but the example is interesting. My only addition is to make the first step visible.

Grace Parker · 0 likes

Good clarification — I read it differently at first.

Mariam Said · 5 likes

I like the idea, but the setup probably matters a lot. The commute version is even more interesting.

Élodie Favre · 4 likes

This feels like advice from a patient friend. My only addition is to make the first step visible.

Curious Atlas · 2 likes

I would pin this if I could.

Rohan Mehta · 0 likes

I am curious what changed your mind.

Giulia Rossi · 2 likes

Amazing how much difference one small change can make. The first week version is even more interesting. Small progress still counts.

Nusrat Akter · 2 likes

This has cozy competence written all over it. I needed this reminder today.

Sanne de Vries · 1 likes

Exactly; the hidden cost is energy.

Kabir Khan · 2 likes

Did anyone else read this and immediately make a tiny checklist?

Léa Bernard · 1 likes

Glad you shared it; small wins count. The first week version is even more interesting.

Paolo Garcia · 5 likes

Adding this to my notes.

Noura Alotaibi · 5 likes

Can you expand on that a bit?

Noura Alotaibi · 4 likes

The Tuesday test is undefeated.

Élodie Favre · 4 likes

Thanks, that actually helped.

Minji Kim · 1 likes

That is a good boundary.

Nour Ali · 0 likes

I am mostly here for the follow-up.

Aisha Rahman · 0 likes

Anecdotally, this tracks with what I have seen. This pairs weirdly well with arepas.