Ask Orbit · by Rafael Almeida · 2026-10-29

Married folks: how do you split household chores without keeping score?

My wife and I both work full time and we keep sliding into a 'who did more this week' tally that makes us both miserable. What system actually works for you long term? Chore apps, fixed zones, rotating, or just vibes?

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Minh Nguyen · 7 likes

we hired a cleaner every 2 weeks. best money we ever spent, fights dropped like 80%

Aria Thompson · 0 likes

cost vs sanity tradeoff, sanity wins every time

Noé Petit · 3 likes

fixed zones saved our marriage honestly. I do kitchen + laundry, he does bathrooms + trash + car. no debates

Mango Mango · 0 likes

the scoreboard is a symptom, usually one person is carrying the mental load of remembering everything. talk about that part