A tiny story about mango sticky rice, São Paulo and timing with a messy constraint

This is probably obvious to veterans here, but it clicked for me only recently. cafes got easier when I stopped treating every attempt like a final exam.

I tried this in Lisbon with a friend and we both noticed the same thing: the social part mattered more than the perfect plan.

I had a disappointing first try, a surprisingly good second try, and then a third attempt that taught me humility. So, naturally, I now have opinions.