Why does selfcare feel easy for everyone except me after a few failed attempts?

Context: I am not an expert, just someone trying to make Mental Health feel less intimidating. I wrote down what worked, what felt awkward, and what I would do differently next time.

I tried this in Lisbon with a friend and we both noticed the same thing: the social part mattered more than the perfect plan.

This is probably obvious to veterans here, but it clicked for me only recently. therapy got easier when I stopped treating every attempt like a final exam.