Web Dev · by Budi Santoso · 2026-10-01

A gentle rant about backend and expectations from a family dinner

I tried this in Lisbon with a friend and we both noticed the same thing: the social part mattered more than the perfect plan.

My current rule is simple: if it takes less than 6 minutes to prepare, I am much more likely to keep doing it.

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Tola Ibrahim · 10 likes

This feels a little overrated to me, even if the intention is good. That is the kind of detail beginners miss.

Noah Johansson · 8 likes

The kindness in this post is lovely. A little friction removed goes a long way. A small test case would make this easier to trust.

Mehdi Benali · 0 likes

I am curious what changed your mind.

Valeria López · 2 likes

Can you share what you tried before this? I would write it down before changing anything else.

Midnight Otter · 0 likes

That is the part people skip.

Olena Shevchenko · 1 likes

That is the part people skip.

Nusrat Akter · 0 likes

The boring logistics are always the hidden part.