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Parenting · by Valeria López · 2026-10-06

Can we talk about the underrated side of kids for absolute beginners

> Tiny progress is still progress.

That line sounds cheesy but it got me thru the part where kids stopped feeling new.

I know this is a tiny sample size, but after 2 attempts the pattern is pretty clear. When I keep the setup simple, I actually follow through.

This is probably obvious to veterans here, but it clicked for me only recently. kids got easier when I stopped treating every attempt like a final exam

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Solar Sparrow · 191 likes

Anecdotally, this tracks with what I have seen. A little friction removed goes a long way

Chiara Romano · 95 likes

Amazing how much difference one small change can make. A little friction removed goes a long way. I needed this reminder today

Aisha Jacobs · 60 likes

That would annoy me more than it helped. The 3-minute rule is underrated. People underestimate how much sleep changes the answer

Zeynep Demir · 48 likes

I wish more posts had this much context

Noé Petit · 15 likes

I am cheering for this update. This is more useful on a tired winter then on a perfect day

Marco Conti · 17 likes

Now I want a spreadsheet

Valeria López · 5 likes

could be regional too

Chloe Davis · 3 likes

Thanks that actually helped

Valeria López · 2 likes

Respectfully, I see it the other way

Curious Orbit · 0 likes

Thanks that actually helped

Marco Conti · 2 likes

That made the concept click

Noah Miller · 1 likes

Can you expand on that a bit?

Liam Wilson · 0 likes

I am stealing that phrase

Aoife Murphy · 1 likes

Beautifully concise

Emma Tremblay · 0 likes

I am curious what changed your mind

Rapid Sparrow · 15 likes

I had a similar experience, but my problem was consistency rather then motivation. The 7-minute rule is underrated

Maya Williams · 15 likes

The side angle is what sold me. It reminds me of a very specific conversation near the train station. People underestimate how much sleep changes the answer

Wanjiku Mwangi · 14 likes

Maybe, but the tradeoff seems bigger than the post suggests. I would write it down before changing anything else

Ethan Brooks · 14 likes

I am mostly here for the follow-up. My friend tried it in Buenos Aires and had the opposite result

Quiet Panda · 7 likes

Thanks that actually helped

Pieter Botha · 5 likes

Thanks that actually helped

Bianca Santos · 12 likes

I agree with teh goal and disagree with teh method. I care less about teh perfect answer and more about repeatability

Faisal Al Saud · 9 likes

Kind of wild how often answer is the whole issue

Mina Chowdhury · 6 likes

I like this more then the top-level advice

Grace Parker · 0 likes

Small caveat: context changes the answer a lot

Hugo Martin · 3 likes

fair pushback

Rohan Mehta · 12 likes

I am cheering for this update. This is where I would ask one more question before choosing

Luca Bianchi · 12 likes

Appreciate the nuance

Luciana Vargas · 11 likes

interesting. I would like to see how it changes after 5 months. A little friction removed goes a long way. Small progress still counts

Sara Ahmed · 11 likes

I disagree a bit. underrated matters, but the bigger issue is usually expectations

Amelia Hughes · 9 likes

there is a hidden assumption here that not everyone shares. The Cape Town example makes it feel concrete

Camila Rocha · 8 likes

I am skeptical. The idea sounds good, but the maintenance cost is real. The a neighborhood park detail changes the whole answer

Sophie Gagnon · 5 likes

I laughed, but you are not wrong

Tiny Noodle · 8 likes

What happened after the first week? I am curious whether beginners stayed easy

Chiara Romano · 7 likes

This sounds sensible, though I would need to test it myself

Mateo Cruz · 7 likes

can you share what you tried before this? That is the kind of detail beginners miss

Felix Weber · 6 likes

Helpful and not preachy, which is rare. I used to overcomplicate this constantly

Camila Rocha · 6 likes

I agree with the goal and disagree with the method. People underestimate how much sleep changes the answer

Isha Menon · 12 likes

This. Exactly this

Budi Santoso · 6 likes

Agree completely. The simple version is underrated. I used to overcomplicate this constantly

Rafael Almeida · 5 likes

honestly, great taste. I noticed the same thing in Melbourne

Oussama Alaoui · 5 likes

I think teh bad version of this advice causes a lot of frustration. This is more useful on a tired commute than on a perfect day. This is kinder advice than most of teh internet manages

Valeria López · 6 likes

That is the part people skip

Kabir Khan · 0 likes

adding this to my notes

Theo Bennett · 4 likes

helpful and not preachy, which is rare. I noticed the same thing in Mexico City. The follow-through matters more than the perfect plan

Chloe Davis · 13 likes

good clarification — I read it differently at first

Milan Visser · 5 likes

Totally agree, especially for beginners

Valeria López · 4 likes

This is the gentle version of my rant

Amelia Hughes · 5 likes

fair pushback

Chloe Davis · 6 likes

I laughed, but you are not wrong

Jack Taylor · 0 likes

Same here. It took me too long to learn

Sara Al Nuaimi · 5 likes

@ameliamakes That is fair, but I still worry about maintenance

Urban Orbit · 3 likes

Thanks for making it less intimidating

Gentle Marauder · 13 likes

@urban_urban11 Totally agree, especially for beginners

Valeria López · 3 likes

That is a good boundary

Amelia Hughes · 3 likes

Appreciate the nuance

Sophie Gagnon · 1 likes

That is a good boundary

Valeria López · 0 likes

This. Exactly this

Paolo Garcia · 1 likes

Kind of wild how often pushback is the whole issue

Amelia Hughes · 6 likes

I think both things can be true

Valeria López · 0 likes

I was going to disagree, but your second sentence got me

Valeria López · 0 likes

my wallet felt that

Arif Hasan · 3 likes

That sounds great until you add children/pets/deadlines

Bianca Santos · 4 likes

I agree with the goal and disagree with the method. A little friction removed goes a long way

Rapid Comet · 4 likes

This is adorable and oddly motivating. I noticed the same thing in Cape Town

Chinedu Adeyemi · 4 likes

Love the tiny experiment energy. My only addition is to make the first step visible

Camille Dubois · 4 likes

I like the idea but the setup probably matters a lot. The social part surprised me too

Minji Kim · 4 likes

Anecdotally, this tracks with what I have seen. That is the kind of detail beginners miss

Omar Hassan · 3 likes

Interesting. I would like to see how it changes after 9 months. This would have saved me a lot of trial and error

Kabir Khan · 3 likes

that last line is excellent. This is more useful on a tired winter than on a perfect day

Noah Miller · 3 likes

The context helps. Without it I would have assumed the opposite. The social part surprised me too

Daniela Torres · 3 likes

Great point, especially the part about kids. I would love to see a follow-up after 9 weeks

Midnight Otter · 2 likes

The vibe here is immaculate. My only addition is to make the first step visible

Mango Panda · 2 likes

I am skeptical. The idea sounds good, but the maintenance cost is real. The low-effort version is probly the keeper

Amelia Hughes · 65 likes

Totally agree, especially for beginners

Aarav Sharma · 9 likes

helpful correction

Maya Williams · 2 likes

Agree completely. The simple version is underrated. I used to overcomplicate this constantly

Urban Otter · 2 likes

Good reminder that boring can be good. I would write it down before changing anything else

Oussama Alaoui · 2 likes

the vibe here is immaculate. It sounds small, but the tiny repair matters

Kabir Khan · 2 likes

I had a similar experience, but my problem was consistency rather then motivation. I would love to see a follow-up after 7 weeks

Mateo Cruz · 2 likes

there is a hidden assumption here that not everyone shares. This is more useful on a tired weekend than on a perfect day

Lucía García · 1 likes

That is a good question for people with more experience than me

Bianca Santos · 9 likes

This comment has main-character footnote energy

Valeria López · 6 likes

@noodlePixel41 That made teh concept click

Valeria López · 2 likes

could be regional too

Rapid River · 1 likes

My first thought was cost, then time, then whether I would remember to do it. My only addition is to make the first step visible

Ren Suzuki · 1 likes

Did anyone else read this and immediately make a tiny checklist? My friend tried it in Jakarta and had the opposite result. The follow-through matters more than the perfect plan

Mia Anderson · 1 likes

Helpful and not preachy, which is rare. A little friction removed goes a long way. I needed this reminder today

Élodie Favre · 1 likes

that last line is excellent. It sounds small, but the playlist matters

Jiho Lee · 0 likes

I wish more posts had this much context. The Melbourne example makes it feel concrete

Luciana Vargas · 17 likes

noted, and thank you

Bilal Raza · 0 likes

The conclusion is too broad but the example is interesting. I noticed the same thing in Cairo