Green Flag / Red Flag · by Rapid Orbit · 2026-10-29

His mom asked my salary within five minutes of the video call

I (27F, Bangalore) have been seeing a guy for four months, we met on Aisle. He set up a video call with his parents in Pune. His dad was lovely and asked about my cricket team. His mom asked what I do (product designer), then "and what is the package?"

He laughed and said "Mummy!" but didn't stop her, and I told her a rough number because I panicked. Afterwards he said that's just how she is and she was actually impressed.

My friends here think it's normal Indian mom behavior, my cousin in London says I should run. Is it the mom or the boyfriend that's the flag here? Or nothing at all?

20 sparks · 11 comments

Comments

Hugo Martin · 10 likes

she said she was impressed. that's the aunty version of a standing ovation

Liam Naidoo · 4 likes

as an indian this is literally question 3 on the standard aunty form, after "where are your parents from" and "do you cook"

Solar Noodle · 5 likes

you forgot "what are your plans after marriage" which gets asked before marriage is even mentioned

Aisha Rahman · 3 likes

your cousin in London has clearly never met a Pune aunty

Aisha Rahman · 3 likes

slight yellow flag from me. he could have said beforehand "heads up she might ask about salary". he knew

Lucas Williams · 13 likes

yes, a heads up costs nothing. maybe tell him that for next time

Solar Noodle · 2 likes

Green for dad asking about cricket. Which team though. this matters

Theo Bennett · 6 likes

RCB 😅

Sophie Gagnon · 8 likes

ah so you know patience. 18 seasons for the first trophy, you can survive one aunty

Pixel Baker · 0 likes

The mom isn't the flag, she's being a mom. The question is what he does when it's something you really don't want to answer. "Mummy!" and a laugh is a bit weak but it's four months in

Brave River · 5 likes

this is the right take. watch the next one, not this one