Green Flag / Red Flag · by Ayesha Khan · 2026-10-30
She ordered for both of us without asking me
First date at a small Oaxacan place in LA. She's been going there for years and is friends with the owner. When the waiter came she said "we'll do the tlayuda, the mole negro and two mezcal palomas" and handed back the menus. I hadn't even opened mine.
Everything was incredible, one of the best meals I've had. But I'm vegetarian on weekdays (long story) and it was a Tuesday. I ate the mole anyway.
Friends are split. Half say she's confident and it's charming, half say it's controlling. I'm somewhere in between. Help
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Gentle Orbit · 10 likes
confident and charming if she asked "mind if I order? I know the menu" first. controlling if she just did it. sounds like the second one
Tiny Baker · 9 likes
I love when someone orders for me at a place they know. less decisions. green
Theo Bennett · 0 likes
same, my partner does this and I've had the best meals of my life. but she asks first
Cedar Runner · 9 likes
🚩 small but real. first date is where you find out what the other person wants, not decide it for them
Niamh Byrne · 2 likes
it's a restaurant order not a life decision lol
Faisal Al Saud · 7 likes
on a first date it's kind of a little preview of decision making though
Lucas Silva · 4 likes
a preview of her having great taste maybe
Jisoo Park · 7 likes
I'd marry someone who is friends with the owner of a good oaxacan place. that's a lifetime of good tables
Linh Tran · 5 likes
the mezcal palomas were a power move tbh
Rapid Orbit · 2 likes
"vegetarian on weekdays" needs its own post
Mango Noodle · 9 likes
OP here it's a deal I made with my sister in 2022, it's a whole thing
Luca Bianchi · 0 likes
this is the most interesting guy on the internet today
Ethan Brooks · 2 likes
beige flag. she's a foodie. she will pick the restaurant forever, accept that now
Aarav Sharma · 0 likes
you ate the mole anyway because you didn't want to make it awkward. that's the real issue. next time just say it
Rapid Orbit · 1 likes
this. she can't respect a preference she doesn't know about