Green Flag / Red Flag · by Cozy Otter · 2026-10-30
Found a note on his phone ranking every girl he's dated. I'm a 7.5
Hanoi. I'm 25F, been seeing him for 5 weeks. We were at a café by Trúc Bạch lake, he passed me his phone to show me a photo of his cat and I swiped wrong and landed in his Notes app. A note called "2026". It's a list of girls. Nicknames, where they met, and a score. Some have comments. One says "cute but eats too slowly". I'm on there: "Linh (Bumble) 7.5, funny, too much skincare talk".
I asked him about it and he said it was "a joke with his friends" from before we started dating and he forgot to delete it. But I'm on it, and we've only known each other 5 weeks. So it's not from before.
Then he said I should be happy because 7.5 is the second highest score.
My roommate says end it now. Part of me wants to ask what I'd need to do to get to a 9 just to see his face. Am I overreacting, it's just a notes app
I asked him about it and he said it was "a joke with his friends" from before we started dating and he forgot to delete it. But I'm on it, and we've only known each other 5 weeks. So it's not from before.
Then he said I should be happy because 7.5 is the second highest score.
My roommate says end it now. Part of me wants to ask what I'd need to do to get to a 9 just to see his face. Am I overreacting, it's just a notes app
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